Eating Candy with No Guilt or Shame

Eating Candy with No Guilt or Shame

Last year I posted how Halloween is the only day of the year that I do not regulate my kid’s sugar intake and actually allow our kids to eat as much candy as they want.   I received a lot of comments on social media and I liked learning about how other families approach such a big candy holiday.

Halloween is such a fun and memorable holiday and my family loves it.  As a kid, the concept of dressing up and just knocking on your neighbor’s door and getting FREE candy? Amazing.  Halloween used to be a one day holiday but now it seems that there are endless trunk-or-treat events and other Halloween themed activities.  With all that fun comes so much candy.  Though I am not a huge fan of the endless amounts of candy, it is the reality of the holiday.  Yet, for many, with all that candy comes a lot of guilt.

My ninja and Batgirl (who is actually nocturnal) at a Trunk-or-Treat Event.

The days after Halloween we often hear about parents sneaking their favorite candies from their kid’s baskets or how all the candy is going to be thrown away because of the temptation to eat it.   We are then inundated with pictures on social media of how many burpees we have to do to work off the bite-sized Snickers bar. Some of us might overindulge and experience guilt and feel that we have to increase our exercise time or we stay completely away from the candy because we are too worried about the extra calories, fat, and sugar.

We all know that healthy food is critical for our overall well-being.  However, having a healthy relationship with food is also very important. One of our greatest responsibilities as parents is to teach our children how to take care of their bodies with good food and movement.  What our children learn, observe and eat as young children can have an impact on their preferences later in life. Just as they learn about healthy food from us, they also learn what kind of relationship to have with food.  Most of our food choices should be nutritious and fuel our bodies but some foods are eaten occasionally and though maybe not best for our bodies, taste good, are fun and part of holidays and special activities. If our children never see us eat a piece of candy or eat it and then feel riddled with guilt what are they learning on how to approach treats?  Can we simply eat a few pieces of our favorite candy once in a while and enjoy it without shame and guilt?  Don’t get me wrong, I think as a country we consume way too much sugar and do really think it is linked to many, many of our health problems.   Most of the time, I think we should eat a low sugar diet.  However, I think constantly restricting ourselves from small indulgences can backfire as well. 

It took me years to get over the guilt and even sometimes shame with certain food choices.  In past Halloweens, I would often overindulge because I was ALWAYS restricting and then the next day feel guilty and feel that I need to workout harder or longer to burn off those extra mini-candy bars I consumed.  As I have talked about in the past, now I approach my nutrition with a much more moderate approach and consume small treats more often but probably much less overall.  I no longer feel the need to eat an entire bag of candy because I have not had any in months.  I honestly have a small sweet almost daily which I believe is much better for me physically and mentally.

So how do I approach special occasion eating differently now?

First, I acknowledge just that.  It is ‘special occasion’ eating. I do not eat like this all the time.  I eat very well 85-90% of the time.  The rest of the time is for enjoyment. Second, I no longer correlate exercise with burning off any specific foods consumed. Exercise should not be done solely to burn off what was eaten. Exercise should be done to become stronger, move our bodies in ways that feel good, for stress reduction, mental health benefits, among countless other benefits.    I do not workout the day following a holiday because I ate one too many mini Butterfingers, I workout because I love to exercise.   Sure, calorie burning is a benefit of exercise but trying to burn a certain amount of calories based on what you consumed the previous day is making exercise punishment. As a fitness professional, I will no longer make comments to my class or clients about working out extra hard because of an upcoming special day or after the holiday to burn the calories off.    Again, exercise should not be a form of punishment.  If you view exercise as something you have to do because of the choices you have made, how likely are you to stick with it?  Will you truly enjoy it?   Lastly, if I do feel guilty about overindulging, I acknowledge it but I am not going to waste mental energy berating myself or feeling guilty.   I remind myself that it is simply time to move on and get back to making good choices most of the time. 

So as I approach one of my all-time favorite holidays, I am not ridden with anxiety that I will either not be able to control myself with all the candy around nor will pretend that I do not want any candy.  I will simply go through my kids trick-or-treat buckets and pick out a few of my favorites and enjoy them, no guilt, no shame.

Hope you and your family have a very happy and safe Halloween!

The entire Batgirl/Ninja Gang!

Breastfeeding Mamas and Exercise Myths

Breastfeeding Mamas and Exercise Myths

I am super grateful and honored to be working with FIT4MOM.  FIT4MOM is the nation’s leading prenatal and postnatal fitness program, providing fitness classes and a network of moms to support every stage of motherhood. From pregnancy, through postpartum and beyond, our fitness and wellness programs help make moms strong in body, mind, and spirit.
I was recently interviewed about breastfeeding and exercise.  Below is the blog reposted from FIT4MOM.
Breastfeeding Mamas and Exercise Myths

Breastfeeding can be an amazing, challenging, beautiful and messy (literally) time for a mama. When Mom is able and chooses to breastfeed, the benefits for baby are plentiful (that being said, we fully support the fed is best movement, and ALL. FORMS. OF. FEEDING.) You do you, Mama; we support you whether milk is coming from a bottle or your body. Check out our fed is best article here.

However, if you are able and are choosing to breastfeed your babe, we know many misconceptions about breastfeeding and exercise still exist that you may want a little more information on. We’ve got you, Mama…

Many new moms are anxious to start losing weight and get back into shape after having their baby; we’ve all been there when we’ve looked in the mirror, maybe shed a few tears, and missed our pre-baby bodies. First off, let’s stop right there for a minute…you are strong. You are beautiful. You are incredibly amazing and so powerful. After all, you just created LIFE and birthed a baby….a tiny little human who grew from the size of a pen tip, to a grapefruit, to a watermelon, and then came out a real life baby “doll.” Whether it was via C-section, VBAC, an all-natural birth, or if an epidural was your savior, we honor you and your power of MOTHERHOOD. Take a few minutes to write a mantra out to yourself. Note 5 things you love when you look in the mirror. Cherish those. Hold on to those. Still wishing you could shed a few pounds? We get it, but there is no rush, Mama. You’ll get there.

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That being said, breastfeeding may help you lose some of your “baby weight.” While seeing a number drop on the scale might seem like a nice perk to breastfeeding, it should not be the focus or sole reason a mama chooses to breastfeed, as that can lead to major frustration and detachment if it doesn’t come easily. Ever heard of tongue or lip tie? The breastfeeding piranha-latch struggle is REAL.

We get many FAQs about working out and breastfeeding them, so we sat down and interviewed one of our fitness experts, Sara Lynn Baker, MS, CSCS, who tackles the answers for you below:

Q1 – Can I lose weight while breastfeeding?

Yes; losing weight while breastfeeding is possible.  But, it’s important to avoid restricting calories too much during this time.

The rate at which Mom loses weight should also be monitored and expectations lowered. Studies show women who reduced overall caloric intake by 30% while breastfeeding experienced a decrease in milk production, as well as a decrease in infant weight gain.  Dr. Clapp states, “There has to be a reasonable balance between a lactating woman’s energy intake and energy expenditure.”

Her weight loss might also plateau while breastfeeding. But, it’s important to remind Mom this is not necessarily a green light to push harder with exercise and start any type of restricted eating to accelerate the weight loss.

Prolactin, a hormone produced by the pituitary gland, helps make breast milk. The levels of this hormone increase by about 10-20 times during pregnancy, and levels will stay elevated if Mom is breastfeeding to help with milk supply. Prolactin is often the culprit of the plateau as it affects the body’s ability to metabolize fat.  Mom might be burning major calories from breastfeeding but hold on to the last few ‘extra’ pounds due to Prolactin affecting her metabolism. As the Prolactin levels fall after months of breastfeeding, or once Mom weans, the last few pounds should be easier to lose.

Q2 – How many calories should I eat to keep my milk supply up but still lose weight if that is my goal?

As you know, Mom needs more calories when breastfeeding, and it could be more than many women require while pregnant. The ACOG recommends 450-500 extra calories a day while breastfeeding! Keep in mind, this is not 450-500 on top of the additional calories she added while pregnant; this is over base caloric needs. If Mom is exercising on top of breastfeeding, it will be important to keep up with the increased caloric demands. Now is not a time to obsess in either direction with counting calories, but a good rule of thumb: if Mom’s milk supply is good, her baby is gaining weight, and she is feeling satisfied, she’s likely taking in enough calories.

Q3 – Will exercise affect my milk production?

A common concern of many women might be how exercise can affect milk production.   A study published in American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that, “high-intensity running during lactation did not impair the quantity or quality of breast milk.”  However, if she notices her supply decreasing as her exercise frequency, duration, and intensity increases, then she should back off the exercise a bit to see if her supply returns. As with everything, the amount of exercise mom can tolerate during breastfeeding is very individual and she should be encouraged to pay attention to her supply, how she’s feeling, and baby’s satiety.

When a breastfeeding mom is returning to exercise, the following tips may help:

  • To avoid volume depletion, Mom must drink plenty of water throughout the day. Of course, this is important even when she is not exercising, but even more so as she starts to workout again.  Quantity recommendations vary.
  • Extremely intense anaerobic exercise (e.g. HIIT workouts or other type of interval workouts) can alter the taste of breast milk.  The sour taste is due to the lactic acid build-up. She may find her baby does not like to nurse after a high-intensity workout. Consider nursing or pumping prior to the workout (which can also aid in Mom’s comfort while exercising), or change the time of workout based on baby’s feeding schedule.
  • Maternal odor or sweat may make baby not interested in nursing. Suggestions from #2 also apply in this situation.
  • Find a good, supportive bra. It is likely Mom’s breasts will still be a (much) larger size than normal. Therefore, it’s important to ensure Mom is supported and comfortable while working out. Take this as a time to invest in a few quality sport bras, even if it’s just for a few months – it’s worth it!
Thank you FIT4MOM for giving me the opportunity to share my passion and knowledge!
4 Mindset Shifts That Can Significantly Impact Your Health

4 Mindset Shifts That Can Significantly Impact Your Health

Back in February I posted a blog about the most important things you could do for your health right now. However, some of those listed are easier said then done.  Most of us know that we should sleep more and eat more vegetables, but why don’t we do it?   Our mindset around exercise and food impacts our actions greatly.  If our mind is not in the right place, then no amount of health advice will help us actually put these tips into action.   Read on for 4 mindset shifts that will hopefully help you with healthy behavior change. 

1 . Stop complicating everything. 

I love exercise physiology, biochemistry and nutrition science.  And yes, those topics can be complicated and I went to school to study all these topics but healthy living is really not that complicated.  It is not necessarily easy but it should not be that complicated.  Can we stop counting macros, minutes of exercise in various zones, how many intervals we did and just move a lot and eat mostly healthy food, most of the time?   Do not get me wrong, I love training programs and planning workouts as that is my job, but I work with so many people who are just overwhelmed with information overload.  They are confused what to eat, when, how much to exercise, how intense to exercise, how many rest days they should take and so on.   Yes, there is a science to training, certain things do work better than others and your program should not necessarily be totally random but our society is not suffering from overtraining.  We are suffering from lack of movement and are overfed but undernourished.  

Move as much as possible throughout the day, eat as many vegetables as you want, eat good quality protein, eat moderate amounts of fruit, whole grains, healthy fats and dairy.  Drink a lot of water.  Aim for at least 8 hours of sleep a night. If you can even just pick one of these tips to focus on for a short while, you should see improvements in your health.  

  2. Get rid of the all or nothing mindset.

Many clients I work with are either totally focused, working out consistently, watching what they eat, working on other health habits or are not working out at all besides maybe once with me, not paying attention to what they eat, not focusing on sleep or other self-care practices.  

Our society has a hard time living in the middle.  We do not like moderation.  We tend to be all in or all out when it comes to our health.  Hence, the popularity of New Year’s Resolutions. After 6 weeks of over indulging, we switch to 6 weeks of restriction and hard core exercise and dieting.   Living in the middle with consistently good choices is much more sustainable in the long run then trying to be perfect for 5 days a week to throw everything out the window come Friday night.  Or training really hard for 3 months followed by 3 months of inactivity.   Consistency beats perfection; EVERY. TIME.

Workout often, enjoy some treats once in awhile, take some rest days but not too many.   Don’t eat everything you want all the time but also don’t restrict too much or too often.

3. Do the best you can with what you have available.

You do not need any fancy equipment, clothes, shoes or space to get in a good workout.  If you are in the habit of exercising at a gym or going to certain classes and are unable to go for some reason, then many of us choose not to do anything. Or when traveling, if we  do not have a well equipped gym, then we decide to just not exercise at all.   Or if we do not have our normal food available to us then we decide to screw it and just order whatever want vs. the best option available. 

Do the best you can in those specific situations.  No gym?  Walk, walk, walk and throw in some body weight exercises. All movement counts.   Only fast food options available?  Hit up a grocery store or gas station and grab some fruit, vegetables and cheese and if those are not available, grab some jerky and nuts.  

It doesn’t have to be ideal or perfect all the time.  Work with what you got. 

4.  You can make healthy choices at any time.  

I have worked with a lot of clients who always seem to be waiting for something.  “I will start healthy eating on Monday.”  “I will start going to the gym regularly when work isn’t as busy.”  “Once my kids are back in school, I will eat better and more regularly.”  You do not have to wait until any special day, time or period in your life to make a healthy choice.  If you had a doughnut for breakfast, you do not have to wait until tomorrow or Monday to make a better choice the next time you eat.   You can start with the next meal.  If your schedule is a bit off one week and you miss your regular exercise routine, you do not have to wait until your schedule returns to normal to exercise again.  You can incorporate some other type of exercise or movement later that day or the next day.

Don’t wait for any special circumstance, day or time to make healthy choices.  You can start at anytime. 

Getting your head in the right space is crucial for behavior change.    Changing your thoughts around exercise and food can help you stay motivated and hopefully help you take action and help you live your best healthy life.  

 

6 Ways My Relationship with Food has Changed-Part II

6 Ways My Relationship with Food has Changed-Part II

The following post is a continuation from my blog last week.

4. I do not make body specific number goals anymore. 

At the beginning of every year, my sister and I write and share goal lists.  I usually have categories such as financial, career, health etc.  I used to always have number goals for my health.  I wanted to be x amount body fat or weigh x amount by this date. I associated a certain weight or body fat with success. Ironically, these goals appeared on the list every single year for a long time.  So either I had unrealistic goals as I was not achieving these numbers and maintaining or by setting a number goal, I was just continuing my quest/obsession to weigh a certain amount.  Now, if I have any numbers associated with my health goals, they are performance driven such as running a 10k in under 55 min or increasing all my max lifts. 

5. I do not plan when and what my next meal will be and therefore do not spend nearly as much time thinking about food. 

These are game changers.  I used to literally always be planning my next meal, usually while eating the meal prior. It was as if I could never live in the present and enjoy the meal I was eating because I was obsessing how that would affect my next meal.  For example, when writing this, I was on a plane at 5:15 AM.  I woke up at 2:30 AM and had coffee on the way to the airport and threw a few snacks in my bag in case I got hungry before I was able to get a real meal when I landed in California.  I was not stressed about it.  I will eat when I get hungry.   In the past, I would have either packed a healthy breakfast (at 2 freakin AM!)  or worst case scenario buy the healthiest thing I could find at the airport so that I would have food with me on the plane in case I got hungry during my 2 hour flight.  I would need to make sure I had a meal with me because if I did not eat, then I might be starving when I landed and then not make the best choices and then probably overeat for that meal.  Then I would not be hungry for my pre-planned snack but if I did not eat my snack at a certain time, then I might overeat at dinner and then I would be worried that eating too much, too late would mess me up the next day on my regimented eating plan. OMG.  I read this now and kind of laugh but also feel embarrassment as this was seriously my mindset.  So much time and energy that I want to spend doing other things. 

6. I do not do food guilt anymore.

This has by far been the hardest but most significant mental switch for me.   Gulit and often associated shame are brutal emotions.  I was giving so much power to food that I would literally feel down on myself for consuming too much of this or that.   I was associating my worth and self-value based on what I was putting in my mouth.  I struggled being a fitness professional who was supposed to have this all figured out.  How could I help my clients eat right and have a good relationship with food if I didn’t?  I often felt like a fraud.     Now, if I over consume or do not make the healthiest choices, I acknowledge the fact that I did not make the healthiest choice and I might not feel great later due to those choices and MOVE ON.   I do not keep thinking about my choices or promise myself to workout extra hard or long or that I can only have salad and water the next day.  I move on.  This shift did not come easily and really did take years to master.  I had to come to realization that one unhealthy meal or even one or a few days of unhealthy eating was not suddenly going to make me out of shape and gain 20lbs.  I had to consciously decide to not let food have that much power and that I wanted to spend my time and energy focusing somewhere else, mainly my kids and family.   Ironically, once I became good at implementing and practicing #1-#5 mentioned in this blog and not restricting myself anymore, the guilt started to diminish significantly.   You know what also happened?  I have maintained the same weight, the weight I was prior to my pregnancies and the weight I feel is appropriate for my height, genetics and body structure with significantly less effort than ever before.  

Though my relationship with food has improved so dramatically there are still times I feel my old mindset creep in and I have to make an effort to not let my old habits and mindset take over.   As someone who has struggled with food issues for years, this will probably always be some type of work in progress but work I am happy to do if it means not going back to where food and guilt ruled me.   

How was your relationship with food changed over the years?   I would love to hear from you, please leave a comment below!  If you are still struggling with your relationship with food or finding what works for you, shoot me an email!  I would love to chat. 

6 Ways I Know My Relationship with Food has Changed-Part I

6 Ways I Know My Relationship with Food has Changed-Part I

I have been open with how much my relationship with my body and food has changed since having kids.  Recently, with lots of travel and my exercise and sleep schedule being a bit off, I have been reflecting with gratitude on how different my relationship with food really is. And though there are times when my old behaviors want to creep back in, I am sometimes surprised, but also proud on how far I have come.    Below are a few ways I know my relationship with food has changed for the better.  

*Once I started writing on this topic, I just kept writing and writing so decided to break this blog into two posts.  Check back next week for Part II! 

  1. I do not count anything anymore. 

For years, especially when I was trying to be ‘good,’ I would record my food in a notebook or food journal.   I would try to count calories and macros as I thought that would help me stay on track and reach my goals.  Not only was it exhausting to write down everything I ate, it was ludicrous to think that my recording and calorie counting was accurate.  I am not a fan of calorie counting or macro counting for many reasons (you can read my thoughts here from a past blog a few years ago) but it is virtually impossible to be accurate. However, I am not completely against food journaling if you are trying to see patterns or figure out a way of eating that might work for you.  I do think it can be helpful in the short term to see where your strengths and weaknesses are and I always have my clients complete a three day food recall.  But in the long term, I do not think it teaches you how to eat mindfully and can definitely become a bit of an obsession. I still of course read labels and pay attention to what I am eating but I honestly have no idea how many calories or macros I eat each day.  I will also probably never keep a food journal again unless I feel it is medically necessary.  I have learned to eat when I am hungry, not overeat about 98% of the time and what foods I like and make me feel good. 

2. I do not dread nor get overly excited for social events because of the food. 

I am a very social person and I love going to parties and different events.  However, when it came to the food, I had two very different attitudes.  I used to get a bit of food anxiety if I knew there was going to be a lot of delicious food because I would feel that I would not be able to control myself (due to the fact I was always trying to restrict myself).  On the other hand, I would be excited that I was going to give myself a free pass to eat anything I wanted and I looked forward to a few hours where I was not restricting.  If I did eat whatever I wanted, I would then feel guilt and often shame.   Now, I just see these events for what they are, activities to be with my friends and family and chat and have fun.  Of course, if I know there is going to be good food I look forward to eating it (our family dinners are amazing since my sister is a professional chef 🙂 ) but I am not filled with pre-emptive guilt, thinking I will eat everything in site.  I enjoy myself while still making mostly healthy choices.  I do not eat everything and anything but I eat at least a little bit of everything I want. 

 

I love birthday parties and cake.  I almost always at least have some of the treats served.

3. I do not look up menus prior to eating at a restaurant for health reasons. 

I love trying new restaurants and luckily Denver has an awesome food scene.  I used to always check the menu before I would go to make sure I felt there was something healthy that I could eat.   And one of those tried and true ridiculous  ‘health’ tips on eating out is to look at the menu before you go and decide what you are going to eat when you get there.  And make sure you do not change your mind or be tempted by something less healthy.  Now, if that works for you, great.  But the amount of time and energy and the thought of me deciding what I want to eat three days before I go is so silly to me now but I did it for years.  Now, I really know I can pretty much eat anywhere and make pretty good choices. I might still hop on the restaurant’s website to check out the place and see if the menu appeals to me but you can bet I am not deciding what I want to eat in advance.

 

in my next post, I will talk about the other 3 ways my relationship with food has changed that are even more significant.